One of the strangest things if rind hard pressed to explain in life, is Pain. Physical, mental, emotional, whatever form it may be in, I don’t quite find words to put it down in. Pain, is weird, comes in many forms, and comes when u least want and expect it. But so do most other things in life. So then, what makes pain stand out?
For one, pain is not bittersweet, like happiness or love is. You feel pain, you cry out , period. You are not any day happy with the sensation, and never do you welcome it. Pain is always, well, ,,, painful. Now that’s another one of life’s big mysteries for me!! Does, then, nothing among the gamut of emotions that we feel, have anything in common with pain?
Well life does, and if ypou come to it , so does love. All three are inevitable, a par of the course of being alive. All define the experience of being human, the idea of humaneness. All are essential for growing up into a sound living being. And like love and life, pain too is universal. But while love and life are so vividly defined explained and understood, what makes us grapple so unsuccessfully with pain?
May be the reason is that we shirk off pain. Like love, happiness, is welcome, pain isn’t. While we rejoice and revel in the throes of the former two, the latter evokes sadness, tears and more of, pain!! Does that help in understanding pain better? Does avoiding pain, take us any closer to eradicating it from our lives? It certainly doesn’t, and therein lays our answer to actually lightening pain.
Acceptance is the key word,. Pain is the other side of happiness. It is as commonplace, as cyclic and as rhythmic as the rising and setting of the sun. So then why fear it? Revile it? Everything in life is beautiful, so is pain. All we need to do is look at it through the right pair of shades.
Having said this, am in now in a position to define pain? But then, I also do not possess the capacity to define mothers love, a friends trust, a partners knowing comforting smile, a teachers assuring nod, neither can i define the feeling of seeing your new born smile at you, nor can i define th satisfaction of quenching the thirst of a parched throat with that eternal elixir called water. Guess then, some things in life are best left undefined, yet are to be experienced, savoured and cherished nonetheless. And yes , Pain is sure one among them !!